22 Comments

1. Mark RD makes this comment

   14 May 2009

   Anyone working in the church as a Youth Leader/Pastor/Choir Director; will at some point encounter this situation on an ongoing basis; as with all things if the person has attained this position through the approval of his church; than his leadership and decision making should not be questioned; but as a rule I have always had another person accompany me or have another youth or adult provide transportation (if the only person available was another youth i would even ride with them as chaperone; this means you would have to make two trips...in any case this situation is where you place protocol being practical come into play. Now as for the original the answer would be yes it IS ok; but why give satan any chance to get some play; even if it means that satan gets into to the mind of the gossiper who would think something was going on; so knowing this it would be in better judgment the Leader to not give ride

2. KLJ makes this comment

   9 May 2009

   If the girl is only 17 and no one else is willing to be responsible for her then the Youth Pastor may have no other choice. The gossiper need to step up and help him out. As for young women who are adults and getting rides home from married men, that is a no no! Alot of times the youth pastor feels obligated to do the right thing and the female will take advantage of that which puts the youth pastor in a compromising position. I am a young adult female in the church and I wouldn't even ask the married male youth leader for a ride home not because of how he would look but because of how it would make me look.

3. KLJ makes this comment

   9 May 2009

   If people in the church trust the youth pastor enough to be a leader, then they should trust him with making sure everyone makes it home safely. If he is married then it is a good chance that he is an adult which means that if he is doing anything with this 17 year old girl then it is rape. If they feel that there is something going on btw the pastor and the girl then they need to do more then just gossip that is a criminal act and should be investegated. But, if it is just gossip, then those people need to get lives. Maybe they should offer the young girl ride instead of accusing the Youth Pastor of just doing his job.

4. N.D. makes this comment

   8 May 2009

   Hey E.D., this is why we spoke about not letting our good be spoken evil of....
   
   Let's use this example...you go to a restaurant, they serve you a root bear in a root bear bottle. The saints see you drink out of it. There is no time to explain that it was only ROOT BEAR, it would better to have them pour it into a glass...
   
   So, in the case that ... Read Moreyou are speaking of...that family, cannot possibly reach out to EVERYONE that suspects something. It would be better for them to not get into the situation.

5. E. G. makes this comment

   8 May 2009

   We have a similar situation going now ,but they don't know that people are saying stuff about it ,but I happen to know the truth and there is nothing going on. I told one person that it wasn't like that with them ,but you know people still had somthing tio say.These people are very grown. Should I say somthing to the people or just stay out of it?

6. Ryan makes this comment

   8 May 2009

   From my perspective that's a lil different. Like I said earlier it's too bad we have to even consider a situation like this .Now, just a saved man , that's a lil different. Only if the parents knew this man and felt they could trust him ,would I feel this is ok. We have to be aware that its a lot of people screaming they are saved , but are far ... Read Morefrom it. Just seems that would be lightweight borderline. That's why it is up to us parents to step to the plate and make sure we don't have to put our children in situations like the ones we are discussing . We should have all that already planned out for them. PARENTS STEP YOUR GAME UP!

7. A.Z. makes this comment

   8 May 2009

   the whole "its just happend im a man, shes a women she almost 18 and she's grown for her age" things aint working. its still not right no matter how you look at it sorry. if the female is close to the fam. thats alot too deep. i mean there should be show trust that depending on how close they are but. be observant... more than likely if i would have been around this guy in close quarters outside the eye of the sanctuary and people r still themselves when they at home see if he's still who he says he is outside of church... but its all comes down to keeping its simple ... if you dont want a man driving your daughter around come pick her up ya self, get her a car make sure how she got there is how she getting home, and if you are a youth pastor if you are a undercover sexual deviant which i pray your not... handle that b4 you get somewhere u cant get out off... install cameras in you car for the safety of honesty of both halves... or ask your wife to do for you...

8. A.Z. makes this comment

   8 May 2009

   always with the touchy subjects neechy, when males answer this its like "were fighting for the right to take young girls home...but then some might question why is it so important for me to take a young girl home.hmmm. but then its like why shouldnt i be able to perform a act of kindness...which is sad... but...then you take into account of he married, but then its still an issue that he's still a man...in turn shows we must not believe in the sanctity of marriage like we say we do and that man are just man. if i cant believe in a perfect union what can i believe in? so check ya self are you really living the way that God intends us too. Alot of people got double lives down to a science and just arent willing to give it up.BE HONEST, BE WHO YOU SAY YOU ARE!!! AT ALL COST STAND FOR WHAT IS RIGHTEOUS AND HOLY...hold for pt2

9. Chris makes this comment

   8 May 2009

   Tell Him dont do it been there done that and it is a trap!. and thats all Im gon say!

10. N.D. makes this comment

    8 May 2009

    Ryan, okay...let's remove YOUTH PASTORS from the equation, and just speak on married saved men giving rides to single female teens, in general.